Ugh, Valentine’s day. The day of loovveeee. A day of chocolate, flowers, greeting cards, heart-shaped balloons, wine, dinner and, if all goes as planned, some loovvvinnn’. Nothing wrong with any of those things but I think the day is a bit silly. People who are in relationships should show the person they love that they care every day of the year. And people who aren’t in relationships hate seeing the lovey dovey propaganda shoved in their faces. I have the best Valentine this year but for many years before this one I didn’t. And, to be quite honest, it kinda sucked. I have no problem being a single lady but Valentine’s day seems set on making those going solo feel like crap about their status.
Well I say screw you Valentine’s day! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. In fact, there are a lot of pluses. You’re free to sleep on whatever side of the bed you want. You get to pick the movie all the time. You can stay out to all hours of the night. You can go out for drinks with the ladies without guilt. And, best of all, you have more time to love yourself.
Loving yourself. It’s something I don’t think we do enough of and we should be doing regardless of our relationship situation. I’m not talking about loving yourself in that narcissistic “I’m sooo fabulous, everyone should love me and want to be around me because I’m so incredibly awesome” kind of way. I’m talking about loving yourself in a way that allows you to remember or realize that you have worth, that you are a beautiful and special person put on this Earth for a reason, that you deserve good things, that you deserve happiness and that you deserve to be loved.
Look in the mirror and tell that beautiful face staring back at you, “I love you”. Sit on the couch, in your sweatpants, buy a really nice bottle of wine and paint your toenails while watching chick flicks. Go for a massage, and don’t you dare feel guilty about it! Take the time to love yourself. It’s very easy to keep powering through life and put your self on the back burner. But you’re not a chore. You’re not something on a to-do list that’s just waiting to get crossed off. You are a priority!
So today, a day where love is the dominant theme, I hope you remember to give yourself a little love. Scratch that. Give yourself A LOTTTT of love. You deserve it!